With others

Empathy and the connection it creates

Have you ever tried to share something personal with someone and they seemed to make you feel as though you are being ungrateful for the good things in your life? They try to point out the positive things about the situation instead of addressing the pain or hurt that you are going through? I have been there and I know how it feels.

Brené Brown has the best term to describe this. Silver-lining your situation. I have done this to others before too. Learning to connect with others is also about recognising that we are all humans and are very much capable of disconnecting with someone who is trying to create a genuine connection with us. This video is a great reminder even for those of us who are always trying to reach out, show up and create real connection with others. ❤

With others, With yourself

Brené Brown’s Parenting Manifesto

This isn’t just for parents though. The manifesto can be tweaked to suit all kinds of close relationships.

It is a reminder that being vulnerable and authentic in our close relationships is fundamental to forming true connections. We can build others up by building ourselves up. We can teach our loved one to love themselves by being a walking example of self-love and respect. We can stop trying to take away the pain of others but instead, be there as their pillar to allow them to work through their feelings. It teaches me to stop expecting perfection from anyone in any aspect of life (including myself). It nudges me to be patient, kind, compassionate and understanding towards my loved ones so as to make life a little easier for them in an already chaotic world. 

Above all else, it speaks to me, to start being the vessel of love and light for others, by having the courage to start working on myself from inside out. Noone ever say that the process is going to be easy, straight-forward, instant, or shame-free. How liberating, empowering and scary is that realisation?


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